Guys (and ladies?) thank you so much for the suggestions. Ideally I would settle the balance in advance but I have yet to find an excuse for withdrawing such amounts from my account. I am now using a business account for a side hustle but (rightly so) one of the agency owners pointed out that I would need to make sure my admin was accurate since this is not a business expense but a personal one. I was using this account for reasons of discretion, not to dodge taxes.
When paying cash I have an envelop ready with her name on it, together with a small personal gift. I put it in a place visible and if she doesn't reach for it within the first few minutes I point it out to her. I don't mind being reminded this is at the end of the day a transaction, as long as it doesn't feel that way during the appointment itself.
Something I've been hesitant to share: I've become very fond of one of the ladies I've been meeting and as an adult of sane mind am fully aware there's no room for 'real' romance. Neither will I ever leave my current partner. I have seen other escorts in between as well. I try to enjoy these feelings but I feel really stupid for having developed feelings of 'love' for an escort. No disrespect intended at all, they are persons just like you and me and deserve to be loved, but I didn't really think this would happen. `I try to remind myself of the business aspect but that doesn't help much. I also understand she's being paid to be nice to me, etc. etc. but that doesn't seem to change my feelings and it's really confusing. On occasion, my mind is running circles. Does anybody recognize this? I'm contemplating contacting the agency for help, they must have experience with this, but perhaps this portal is more useful.
This seems to be my case too, or very similar at any rate, and I must say it's very comforting to read about someone else's experience that is along the same lines. Now I have been looking for a girl who would be the perfect match for my needs all along, so that I could basically keep seeing only her from time to time and avoid having to meet new girls all the time, and put up with the many disappointments and bad experiences which that entails - and believe me, I've had my share of these! In the few cases when my experience was positive, the girl in question would soon disappear, leave the job or the country, or else my enthusiasm was not reciprocated. After moving to the high-price end of the market in the hope I'd find what I wanted, I finally found an amazing escort who I always have a great time with. But soon the feelings developed on my side. Being a grown up and rational man, I am well aware of the absurdity of this situation, and the girl herself has done nothing to give me any false hopes. I also have a family I do not intend to leave, loads of responsibilities, etc etc. Perhaps this would not happen if I could meet her more often, but due to a number of reasons, I can't: it's too much money, discretion is important, and so on. So, over time, I had to learn how to cope with my feelings and have them under control. I am still learning, as they seem to come in bouts. For a few weeks it's OK, then it drives me crazy for a while, especially if I can't see her but have to wait... But it seems to me the wisest thing to do is simply take it easy, go on with your life, take it as it comes and enjoy it while it lasts. Easier said than done, but at the end of the day I am happy that I met her, I enjoy every moment we can be together and I am grateful for what she gives me. I have often wondered if all this is just an illusion on my part, as she is paid to provide a good service, and that's what she does. But I do not think it's that simple after all. Escorts are human and they have feelings too, and this sort of relationship is tricky, especially as she provides real GFE. I do believe she really enjoys the time she spends with me too. So no wonder I ended up seeing her as a kind of part-time girlfriend (though paid). If it's an illusion, the illusion is so powerful and intoxicating that I have wilingly surrendered to it! There is a website I have found very helpful and interesting, and which I warmly recommend. It's called "the satisfaction project", and has articles on various topics written by an Australian escort, Georgie Wolf. Deals with typical situations, like mine and yours, explains them and offers some sane practical advice. I found it put me at ease somewhat and provided some valuable insights. The journey continues, live and learn, as the saying goes
I can understand that men get feelings for some of the ladies especially when they act more personal and you do also other activities with them. On the other side I am lucky to not have these kind of feelings for them. I can enjoy the time and the sex but for me it always stays a kind of business relationship I pay for.
For me it is more that I want to have quality time and good sex with a lady.
Falling in love or getting feelings for someone is only happening in real life for me.
After 3 different dates with a high class escort I think I like it, but I am not completely convinced about the real adding value of some of them. I expected a bit more from it related to looks and background.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! What you describe is the normal and rational attitude which I share in principle, I know that this is what such a relationship is, and that it's nothing more really. And I also know exactly what you mean when you say you expected a bit more in terms of looks and background. That is my experience too. In spite of the extremely high prices, this is still way below the standard of persons you would meet in "real life", in terms of culture, education, sophistication, and the looks sometimes leave much to be desired as well. But then, the women I meet in real life are not in for casual sex with no committments, nor do I think they would ever dream of working as escorts. The point is that being strictly professional leaves me wanting something more, and a good GFE creates the sweet illusion that it's there... and with this one particular lady, the sex is so good, and the fun so much fun, that the illusion is even more powerful. But I have simply decided to keep it professional and go along with it as long as it lasts and as long I enjoy it, and can afford it as well.
